Grab a cup – God knows I have one…
Today I want to talk about how you deal with anger. Sometimes it’s the smallest things that tick me off; like when the coffee maker doesn’t work, or when the dog keeps barking at things but you don’t know what it wants, or when you think you fixed your coffee maker and no coffee comes out of it…
The whole reason I’m doing this blog is that I was having a wonderful day until I got home. Yes – my coffee maker is all out of whack, but I can fix it, I’m sure. However, I experienced something dumb with work that should have been made a lot more clearer – which I believe we all have gone through. I won’t go into depth on the issue, but here is how I coped.
- Took a deep breath – I gave myself a moment to analyze and figure out what I could do to fix the issue
- Pre-typed an email – I pre-typed the email with no recipients attached in case my email sounded bitchy… By not adding an email address, it gave me the freedom to type what I really thought without accidentally hitting send.
- Turned to my vice – I’ll be the first one to hit the smoking area after being put in a stressful situation. Something about turning to that naughty, naughty vice of mine that makes me feel so good. However, don’t follow my footsteps, find your own vice.
- Made a coffee – Nothing soothes me more than a warm cup of coffee. I don’t care the time of day – a cup of coffee cures all!
- Revisit that pre-typed email – After I finally pulled myself together I like to revisit the email that was never sent and then reword it to make it sound professional. Usually, helps after doing number 1-4.
I hope you find some sort of help in this, if not that’s fine. One rule I won’t put in here because it’s not quite part of my routine is to type out how you feel… Sort of like this blog post. Typing out or writing out feelings works really well. Taking it one thought at a time helps you organize your brain a little better.
Anywho, until Friday!
When I first started in my field my mind was scattered all the time… However, it did not help that I had a boss that was the same way. She relied on me to keep her organised, but when she jumped from project to project within one sentence it was really hard to keep track… Dealing with a manager like that really teaches you to slow down and keep an organized notebook/bullet journal.
Since then I’m basically a mess without my notebook, but I’ve also learned to keep a tight calendar. Every due date, meeting & reminder go in there (you can imagine how it looks…)
I came up with some tips on how to deal with these types of situations:
- Analyse the situation
- Make a step-by-step list and do each task slowly [This way you are less likely to make mistakes]
- Ask questions or for help. If you’re stuck, never be afraid to double check with someone. Even if you have a difficult boss, you asking questions will show them you’re invested and dedicated to doing a good job.
- Keep an organised ‘To-Do List’ or bullet notebook. Make it the way you want, add colours and spend time with it to make it work best for you
- Take a break: Make a coffee or tea and put on some music before doing any project. Calm yourself down and start as soon as you’re ready
- If you have to, go for a walk. Taking a minute on your own to clear your head will give you space to organize each step it will take to reach your goal
- If you need to make a call: just do it. You’re the expert here and need information from them.
- Have a backup plan if something goes wrong – or find a solution to fix the problem
Recently I had to cold call a bunch of events in my city for a program my work is doing. Finally, finishing an email that explained our program clearly was very uplifting – especially receiving an email from an event coordinator that seemed thrilled about the opportunity. I did most of the steps above and broke out of my fear of being told “no”.
I think being afraid really pushed me to a limit. I knew I had to fulfil a task, but that devil was sitting on my shoulder telling me I was going to fail… I flicked that little bugger off me and here I am; proud of myself for stepping out of my shell.
Just remember that these little things are just little. If you need a helping hand, please feel free to reach out; I’ll catch you every time 🙂
Until next time,
Sit back with a coffee, grab a donut and put on some relaxing music. I want this to be a place where you can relax and have conversations. A safe zone if you will, we all need a safe zone.
Before you decide I’m someone you’ll want to spill your guts out to, or relate to; read this quick q&a so you can get a small taste of who I am.
- The meaning behind your blog name:
I drink a lot of coffee. One first thing in the morning, one around lunch time and usually but not always; one in the evening. I want you to sit with your coffee in the morning and shuffle through the posts on my blog while you sip on that warm liquid that hugs your insides while you’re still groggy from your beauty sleep.
- Short term goals for this month:
Now that this month is basically over, I’ll state my goals for May. A) Cut back on all the horrible but sweet food I have been eating. B) Get through the dance performances I need to do throughout May. C) Keep myself organized at work. I really need to improve on that end…
- Someone you see yourself marrying/spending the future together:
This one is super easy. Francis. I will marry Francis. He is my boyfriend and we have been together for about a year… And it’s the best year I’ve ever had. He is the sweetest, kindest and most gentle fella I have ever met or been with. He treats me like the ultimate princess and is always there for me when I need someone to talk to. He works horrible hours in construction – but he tells me that comes with the job. Although he works these long hours, he gives me every second of time he has. Always makes room in his schedule to pencil me in even for 30 seconds for a hug and a kiss. He’s the most genuine and fun guy and he listens to the same music as me. He deserves a full blog post alone though… Soon to come 🙂
- Three books on your bookshelf:
A) Ealeanor & Park – my favourite sappy novel… Though it’s not all that sappy haha
B) Soppy – a comic book on things couples do (that I can definitely relate to)
C) Go Ask Alice – a novel about a girl who accidently gets drugged at a party but likes it. Definitely a coming of age story with a horrible end.
That’s all I’ve got for now. I hope this has given you the slightest taste of who I am. Visit my contact page if you have any questions. I’d be more than thrilled to hear from you!